There are a great deal of restrictions surrounding who is entitled to put a grave marker or other memorial on a grave site in the UK. These restrictions take into consideration who is in possession of the Deed of Grant for the grave as well as to the rules set down by the cemetery in which the plot lies.
Only the person named on the Deed of Grant to a cemetery plot has the exclusive rights to put a headstone on a grave, provided that the cemetery allows it. If you do not own the Deed of Grant and place a grave marker on the site, the Registered Grave Owner is legally entitled to remove it or have it removed.
It is worth bearing in mind that even if you are the person named on the Deed of Grant and therefore entitled to put a headstone or other grave marker on a grave site, you are still bound by the rules and restrictions of the cemetery in which the grave lies.
If your deceased loved one has been laid to rest in an eco cemetery for example, you may be restricted to placing only biodegradable headstone markers, or none at all. Traditional churchyards have strict rules regarding the materials of gravestones and memorials, as well as their design. For instance, a Christian churchyard may not permit any iconography that relates to another religion.
When a grave is purchased, a Deed of Grant is bestowed on the Registered Grave Owner. This gives them the exclusive rights to the grave for 50 years. After this period of time is up, the Deed of Grant must be extended in order to continue ownership of the grave site.
Usually only the person named on the Deed of Grant can erect memorials or headstones on a grave. Nevertheless, there are some circumstances in which other people can become involved in the process. These include:
Once the Deed of Grant for the exclusive right of burial has expired, it can usually be renewed, or extended by the grave owner for a fee. If it’s not extended, ownership returns to the council and no further burials can take place within the plot until it’s re-purchased.
An exclusive right of burial is the lease given for a burial plot for a set period of time. During this time, the person with ownership of the named grave has the automatic right to be buried in the grave and can allow others to be buried, if space permits. Whilst if someone has the exclusive right of burial, nobody else can be buried in the plot.
While there is no one specific rule around how long you need to wait before you can put a headstone on a burial grave, it is recommended that you wait for at least six months before erecting a headstone. This is for a number of reasons, the first of which is that the ground needs time to settle before a gravestone can be erected. For the first six months, the grave may still be settling – and in some burial grounds, this can be a risk for closer to a year. If a headstone is placed in sinking ground, then it is likely to lean forward.
There are emotional reasons too; you will have a clearer idea of what you want inscribed on a headstone after a few months when the initial shock has passed and the grieving process is slightly further along. The epitaph you choose will be there to last, so it is worth taking the time to ensure that it is right.
Only the Registered Grave Owner is legally entitled to replace a headstone. If anyone else erects a memorial without their support, it can be removed in compliance with laws supporting the removal of any unauthorised items from the grave site. These restrictions do not just apply to the headstone itself, but also to any toys, memorabilia or gravestone ornaments that may be on the grave.
The Registered Grave Owner may also be instructed to replace a headstone if it is not in compliance with the rules set by the cemetery if the offending aspects (such as an inappropriate colour, decoration, flower vase or type of image) cannot be altered in situ. Here are some sandblasted designs for inspiration.
If you are the Registered Grave Owner, adding a second name to a headstone is possible and allowed, provided that the lettering and any additional decoration comply with cemetery restrictions. It is also possible to have an extra inscription added to the back of the gravestone if there is no space on the front – this is rarely prohibited.
The cost of adding a second inscription to a headstone, or adding to the inscription on an existing headstone or memorial, does tend to be more expensive than the initial inscription, even if the work is being carried out in situ. You can either seek out the company responsible for inscribing the headstone in the first place or find someone new. Often the price is discounted for returning customers but distance can also play a part in the quote you receive so it is always worth contacting a few different companies for comparison.
Yes. You will need to make the shipping arrangements yourself but we are happy to liaise with an agent about timings and crate up your memorial ready for collection. There is a cost associated with this, so contact us for a quote once you have decided which memorial you would like.
Memorials of Distinction believe that purchasing a memorial headstone is such an important decision that it is not suited to an on-line ‘add to my basket’ type of purchase. There are also many variables in the process which will affect your order, for example what is allowed by your particular cemetery and whether your inscription will fit on the memorial you have chosen.
It is possible to order over the phone or by email using the details on our Contact Page where our staff will be able to help and advise you.
We also offer a home visit service which is completely free of charge and obligation. One of our knowledgeable staff will visit you in the comfort and privacy of your home to help you to choose a design, decide on an appropriate wording and answer any other questions you may have.
Any administration or correspondence with local authorities, cemeteries or church authorities is dealt with by Memorials of Distinction on your behalf – you will not have to worry about this aspect of the process.
The ground requires time to settle after a burial so it is important to wait before installing your memorial. A headstone can usually be erected on a grave six months after the last burial has taken place but a period of 1 year is most common. If cremated remains are interred in a grave, a headstone may be fixed after 3-6 months, as the ground requires less settling time but this can vary. If you tell us which cemetery/crematorium your memorial will be installed in, we can find out the specific rules for you and advise accordingly.
Can recommend Memorials of Distinction without hesitation. A wonderful team who made the whole process very manageable and less daunting, resulting in a beautiful memorial stone for my parents. They even provided some photos once the stone had been installed so I could see it before visiting in person, which was so moving and made my day. All in all, a credit to the profession.
Karen G. Google Review: 08/02/2023
Absolutely recommend this company who were recommended to me. Cannot fault them in any way. Everything went smoothly and on time. No complaints at all. My cousin’s used a very well known company for their mother’s headstone and had trouble all the way. If you want perfection, these are the one to use.
Julie M. Google Review: 24/02/2021
It’s the little things that matter. Every member of staff that I had the pleasure to speak to far exceeded my expectations. Nothing was too much trouble, and the feeling of never being rushed, added to the overall good experience. We chose a pearl blue granite stone, which looks even better in reality. The finished result, including the cropping of photo to remove a hand and arm proved to be an excellent final touch, something we didn’t expect at all. So to say we are pleased with the overall service would be an understatement. MOD and the extended team provided an excellent service, and would highly recommend them.
London Road Cemetery, St. Albans, Herts.
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