There are a great deal of restrictions surrounding who is entitled to put a grave marker or other memorial on a grave site in the UK. These restrictions take into consideration who is in possession of the Deed of Grant for the grave as well as to the rules set down by the cemetery in which the plot lies.
Only the person named on the Deed of Grant to a cemetery plot has the exclusive rights to put a headstone on a grave, provided that the cemetery allows it. If you do not own the Deed of Grant and place a grave marker on the site, the Registered Grave Owner is legally entitled to remove it or have it removed.
It is worth bearing in mind that even if you are the person named on the Deed of Grant and therefore entitled to put a headstone or other grave marker on a grave site, you are still bound by the rules and restrictions of the cemetery in which the grave lies.
If your deceased loved one has been laid to rest in an eco cemetery for example, you may be restricted to placing only biodegradable headstone markers, or none at all. Traditional churchyards have strict rules regarding the materials of gravestones and memorials, as well as their design. For instance, a Christian churchyard may not permit any iconography that relates to another religion.
When a grave is purchased, a Deed of Grant is bestowed on the Registered Grave Owner. This gives them the exclusive rights to the grave for 50 years. After this period of time is up, the Deed of Grant must be extended in order to continue ownership of the grave site.
Usually only the person named on the Deed of Grant has the permission to erect memorials or headstones on a grave. Nevertheless, there are some circumstances in which other people can become involved in the process. These include:
Once the Deed of Grant for the exclusive right of burial has expired, it can usually be renewed, or extended by the grave owner for a fee. If it’s not extended, ownership returns to the council and no further burials can take place within the plot until it’s re-purchased.
An exclusive right of burial is the lease given for a burial plot for a set period of time. During this time, the person with ownership of the named grave has the automatic right to be buried in the grave and can allow others to be buried, if space permits. Whilst if someone has the exclusive right of burial, nobody else can be buried in the plot.
While there is no one specific rule around how long you need to wait before you can put a headstone on a burial grave, it is recommended that you wait for at least six months before erecting a headstone. This is for a number of reasons, the first of which is that the ground needs time to settle before a gravestone can be erected. For the first six months, the grave may still be settling – and in some burial grounds, this can be a risk for closer to a year. If a headstone is placed in sinking ground, then it is likely to lean forward.
There are emotional reasons too; you will have a clearer idea of what you want inscribed on a headstone after a few months when the initial shock has passed and the grieving process is slightly further along. The epitaph you choose will be there to last, so it is worth taking the time to ensure that it is right.
Only the Registered Grave Owner is legally entitled to replace a headstone. If anyone else erects a memorial without their support, it can be removed in compliance with laws supporting the removal of any unauthorised items from the grave site. These restrictions do not just apply to the headstone itself, but also to any toys, memorabilia or gravestone ornaments that may be on the grave.
The Registered Grave Owner may also be instructed to replace a headstone if it is not in compliance with the rules set by the cemetery if the offending aspects (such as an inappropriate colour, decoration, flower vase or type of image) cannot be altered in situ. Here are some sandblasted designs for inspiration.
Without a court order or other legally binding ruling, a cemetery cannot remove a headstone without the plot owner’s permission. If there are safety concerns around a particular memorial headstone, such as material degradation over time, the cemetery should contact the plot owner first in order to resolve this.
If you are the Registered Grave Owner, adding a second name to a headstone is possible and allowed, provided that the lettering and any additional decoration comply with cemetery restrictions. It is also possible to have an extra inscription added to the back of the gravestone if there is no space on the front – this is rarely prohibited.
The cost of adding a second inscription to a headstone, or adding to the inscription on an existing headstone or memorial, does tend to be more expensive than the initial inscription, even if the work is being carried out in situ. You can either seek out the company responsible for inscribing the headstone in the first place or find someone new. Often the price is discounted for returning customers but distance can also play a part in the quote you receive so it is always worth contacting a few different companies for comparison.
We quote for inscriptions by character/letter rather than words. All our memorials include 80 letters for free but how many words this translates to will depend on your individual inscription text. Each character beyond the 80 included will cost £1.95 on Granite, Marble, Portland Stone or Nabresina. These would be cut & gold leaf or painted black/silver/white, if you require lead lettering please contact us for a quote. Additional inscriptions being added to existing memorials will cost more and are priced on an individual basis.
Most of our memorial designs can be manufactured in a different colour/material to the one shown. See our Materials & Finishes page for more information on what is available. There may be some restrictions placed on your choice of material by the cemetery or churchyard. We will be able to advise you about that once you tell us where your loved one is to be interred. The price for memorials made from non-standard material will vary from the ones shown on our website so please contact us for a quote.
It is often the case that a couple will want to be interred in the same place. When this is the case we will lay out the lettering, designs and photos on your chosen memorial so that it leaves space for an additional inscription of similar size. A book memorial or triple heart memorial is a great way to achieve this.
Many thanks for completing our order so swiftly. I visited the cemetery yesterday and I was so pleased. It is a very special memorial to my parents and looked exactly as I wanted. Thanks again.
Jeanette S. Sent by post: 01/07/2019
What a great company to deal with, very professional and helpful, they have just refurbished my parents headstone for me, very pleased with the result and I would recommend this Company to anyone looking for a friendly and helpful service.
This was a renovation at Woodwells Cemetery, Hemel Hempstead, Herts.
Graham L Google Review: 06/05/2021
I went to see Mum’s memorial, wow oh wow, what an incredible job, it is beautiful, just like my precious Mum. I broke down in tears as it was so amazing, the attention to detail is 100% first class. In this day and age it is hard to find companies in any trade, who have compassion and cares about the end product for their customer. This company certainly does. Natalie who visited me at home, and guided me through the whole process from start to finish is a pure credit to your company.
Karen M. Google Review: 14/07/2020
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